Saturday Night

Saturday night was amazing!  I went downtown again alone and made several in-field approaches.  I even approached a table of 6 hott women at the bar and DID NOT get rejected.  As a matter of fact, I opened the set, got them laughing and exited myself.  There was no rejection, only a valuable lesson learned.  I'm no pro at this but I have learned a thing or two.  Here's a big key to approaching in a bar that I have tested and it is tried and true.  Technically, it is a way to avoid rejection every time.  When you go to approach a set you always make it seem like you are on your way somewhere else and are just passing by making a small conversational contribution.  Now, be careful what you say because what you say must have a hook to it.  And you only have a small window of time to hit that hook point before you start looking needy.  But here's how the rejection is avoided.  If you are giving the impression that you are on your way somewhere else (back to your "friends" over across the bar even if you came alone) then you will never be rejected.  Walk past the set slowly.  Open the set over your shoulder.  Dangle that bait in front of them and see if it hooks.  If it doesn't (which if you know conversation then you know what hooks and what doesn't), then you can always keep walking past completely avoiding any rejection.  But I would say that I hit the hookpoint 95% of the time.  And every once in a while you'll come across a real stick in the mud who has absolutely no personality, is entirely too introverted to be out in public, and they think it's offensive when a stranger comes up and talks to them. These people will reject you  almost always.  Brush it off and always remember that you are a butterfly of social talent and you are out to make everyone's days and nights more enjoyable through your charm and personality.  Suck every bit you can from the marrow of life.  Be the man.  Be a man. Signing off.  Cheers.