The Past 20 Days of the StyleLife Challenge (a short summary)

The past 20 days of the StyleLife Challenge have been gut-wrenching, to say the least.  But it has been worth it.  To completely change and improve yourself takes everything you have and more.  The thing is, people don't have a clue about what they have inside them until they put it to the test.

-Day 1-3 included, in a nutshell, going up and making smalltalk with about 8 different strangers as well as the CaveMan Hygeine Day (Day 3) which was the most awkward day of those first three.  On that day, I couldn't shower or shave and I haven't NOT showered for like a decade.  But I got through it. : )
-Day 4: ask 3 strangers to recommend a cool men's clothing store. Also, Day 4 was Posture Day where I worked on my posture. The idea with that was to stand up straight and appear confident in posture at all times.
-Day 5: this was an easy day.  All I had to do was "spiffy up" my appearance in 3 ways.  So, the three things I did was start wearing my nice collared shirts, fix my hair up with gel, and I bought a cool-looking wrist band (peacocking). So if you see me now, I usually have these 3 things goin on.
-Day 6: my mission on this day was to give 4 women spontaneous compliments.  I know pretty easy. But easier said than done.
-Day 7: my mission was to approach 3 different women with an opener I had been taught. My opener was the 5 oceans opener which went a little something like this: "Hey. How good are you at geography. Cool. Well my friends and I have been trying to figure out what the fifth ocean is and we've been stuck on it all day. There's the Arctic, Atlantic, Pacific, and Indian. But we can't come up with the fifth one." One of the openers that I came up with and use often now is: "I found a stray 3 legged cat last night and I'm trying to figure out what to name it.  I was thinkin' like stumpy or tripod or something."
-Day 8: Approach three more girls with an opener but this time add a root and false time constraint.  (Root: the reason why you're asking. False time constraint: I'm in a bit of a rush. (Body language)
Day 9: Approach mixed groups. Approach 3 groups that contain men as well as women. This day was a breaking point for me.  I approached 3 mixed groups with a rooter and a false time constraint. Here's exactly what I said: "Hey guys, I can only stay for a minute but I need to ask ya'll a question and if you don't wanna answer I'll just go ask someone else.  Who do ya'll think cheats more, guys or girls? And the reason why I'm asking I'll tell you in a sec but real quick, what do you think?" (RESPONSE) "Hm...that makes sense.  Why do you think it is that way? Well, the reason I'm asking is b/c I just got off the phone with a female friend of mine (I ALWAYS HAVE MY CELL PHONE OUT IN MY HAND TO GIVE THE IMPRESSION OF THAT) who is having relationship problems and she thinks her boyfriend might be cheating on her. So she calls me and asks me what I think about it. Now, I don't really know so I thought I would ask you guys cuz ya'll are a group with guys and girls and I can get a more accurate opinion.  Well, thanks for the opinion. Take care."
Day 10:  Disqualification Day.  Mission was to approach 3 women with one of my openers and subtlely let her know that you don't want to date her.
Day 11: Make 3 approaches with an opener using a time constraint and a root. When the convo is closing, take one step away and look back saying: "Just out of curiosity, how do ya'll know one another?" (RESPONSE)  Then say, "I wonder which one of you is the strange one of the group?"
Day 12: Storytelling Day.  Make 3 approaches with all the things I've practiced and transition into an interesting story from my past.
Day 13: Bookstore Day. Go to a bookstore and read up on Cosmo magazine, make 3 approaches asking an opinion about an article in the magazine.  Also, fill up my StyleLife Calendar with upcoming events.
Day 14: DHV day. Make 3 approaches using my new tools and transition into a demonstration of higher value (DHV).  The DHV for today was the ring's routine where you teach someone something about their own personality (one of the best ways to spark interest in a stranger is by teaching them something about themselves.)
Day 15: Cold reading day.  This day was very difficult for me but I grew the balls to just walk up to a girl in the grocery store and start telling her about herself through observation.  AND TO MY SURPRISE SHE LOVED IT!
Day 16: Random acts of kindness day. Go out of your way today to make other people feel good about themselves.  I made 2 friendly conversations with strangers that left them feeling great about themselves and for the third one I bought a stranger's groceries for them.  This day made a big difference in my attitude prior to approaching which is very important.  I go in with the attitude that I'm here to make your day.  And people respond really well to the vibe.
Day 17: Open 2 women, demonstrate the rings routine with additional cold reading.  Today went awesome and it was aided partly by Day 16 because my attitude conveyed my good intentions.  I completed the two approaches in under 10 minutes!
Day 18: Threads, loops, and hooks.  A normal everyday conversation contains threads , loops, and hooks.  A thread, in a nutshell, is any topic of conversation.  It can be anything from the weather to my new pair of shoes.  A conversational loop is created when that thread (or topic of conversation) has been talked about so much that there is nothing else left to say (Hence a closed loop).  A hook is any topic within a thread that can spontaneously lead to another topic of conversation, or thread.  The goal today was to create multiple thread in 3 conversations with strangers to leave the impression that ya'll have a lot to talk about.
Day 19: Seed 3 conversation with an upcoming event.  The goal today was not to get a number but to simply sprinkle a hint of an upcoming interaction on a casual conversation.