As discussed in the previous post, social proof and preselection by the opposite sex are two attraction switches that can be flipped on or off. There are others which I will get to in a second. Social proof and preselection differ slightly. In a nutshell, social proof is simply having people around you. The highest degree of social proof is demonstrated when the people around you are all centering their attention on you. You are the alpha-male, the high-value male that women want to be with and men want to be. Pre-selection by women is just what it sounds like; you are a man who is attractive enough to the opposite sex to have women wanting to be around you and that conveys a message about you to other women. Women want what other women have. Women want the highest value male in the room. Women want a man who has several different options when it comes to choosing a woman because a man who has several different options is a high-value man. Women want to be the hottest, most sought-out one in the room. And don't get mad at hott girls who sit at the bar with their other hott girlfriends and act stuck-up when you approach them and they reject you. These girls are just bored of getting hit on constantly by guys who usually all want the same thing, to get laid. We all know the type. The lame losers who have no personality. So, be different. Don't approach the group head on. Go indirect. Open the set over your shoulder and add a time-constraint to your approach. Be interesting. Tell interesting stories about your life. Engage the group. Make it look spontaneous, say that you can only stay for a second b/c you have to get back to your friends, and then neg the target. By negging the target you briefly disqualify yourself from being a potential suitor until attraction is built, and at that point you can start flirting. A neg is, in a nutshell, a backhanded compliment that you say to a stuck up hott girl that lets her know that you are not after her. After she is convinced that you are not after her, she will lower her shield which, in turn, gives you the opportunity to demonstrate that you are in fact an interesting, fun, high-value guy. After all, if you had the guts to approach a group of hott girls then you must have had at least some value.
Anyways, back to attraction switches. 1) pre-selection by women, 2) social proof, 3) leader of men, 4) protector of loved ones.
Now, leader of men is pretty simple to break down. If you are in a group of guys in a public gathering and you can convey that you are the alpha male in the group then you will be the first one in the group that women will be attracted to. Women want the head-honcho. That's their first choice. If you are in a group of guys and you are clearly not the alpha-male, and one girl is talking to you while the alpha male is talking to another girl. Take that as an insult. She doesn't want to talk to you but is doing so subconsciously because the alpha male is occupied.
Protector of loved ones. Women want a man who, when they fall in love, will protect her. If you can demonstrate that you look out for your friends and family, this says something about you and the esteem to which you hold the ones that you love. So look out for your friends and family at all times. It's attractive. ; )
Signing off.
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