JUNE 3, 2011: I DIDN'T WANT TO GO OUT

Since I have decided to do the StyleLife Challenge a 2nd time, I have had much success on Day 7 and Day 8.  But, just like on my first time through the Challenge, I had problems with Day 9 b/c it was hard to find a co-ed group of people my age.  I tried it during the day but it took me two days to realize that I would have much more success just going to a bar and doing an approach there.  So, that's what I did.  And I accomplished my mission for Day 9.  Off to Day 10; disqualification day.  It's where you do an approach and subtlely let the girl know you don't want to date her.  Oh yes, the power of NO is extremely potent.  This will be easy b/c I can do all my approaches on lone women instead of having to find a group.  Lone women are everywhere during the day.  Piece of cake.

Anyways, judging by my title for this post, I guess I better write something pertinant to my night out tonight.  I displayed extremely high-value behavior tonight.  Lauren from UNCA was the stage.  We were at the Emerald Lounge and I had to tell her the story of how I looked after Julie-Boolie that one night she got too drunk. I took her back to my apt. b/c she couldn't drive and she slept on my couch. She's a good girl and I'm glad I looked out for her.

SPECIFICALLY FOR SARA FLETCHER: SHE IS A SWEETHEART

Men are like Scooby Doo on steroids when it comes to dating and interacting with women.  But, being a woman, you usually need a net to drain out all the guys who you don't want.  The trick is tweeking your net to catch the good ones and weed out the bad ones.  Your net is a metaphor for how you present yourself and how you respond to different stimuli in a social environment.  It's actually quite simple.  I am going to quote someone (who I can't recall) who I read about during my many months of studying dating science.  "If you want the man of your dreams, be the woman of his dreams."  The point is, you tend to attract mates who resemble yourself.  Here's an example, if you are known around your town for being a slut, then you are not going to attract a true gentleman.  If you are a man who is known for being a sleazeball, then most high-caliber women are going to stay away from you.  If you fall into this category and wish to attract a true gentleman or lady, move to another town and start over.  LOL.  But, if you are a true lady or gentleman, get out there and convey your personality.  Meet as many people as you possibly can and through time, the one will come.  It's a numbers game.  I learned this a long time ago.  Meet as many people as you can and eventually you will meet the one that fits you.
First thing is first, men are initially attracted to visual images or, looks.  Women are more complex.  As most women know, they are attracted to personality, sense of humor, status, etc.  Be yourself.  Act the same way you would act if you were around a known friend or family member.  Comfortable and relaxed.  Signing off.  Cheers.

-Tuck

THE NEXT STEP...

Get out there and learn something.  Improve yourself.  You don't have to do anything.  You will improve and become great.  Just stay comfortable with yourself and take the ride for what it's worth.  It's a learning process and you need not feel nervous or anxious about it.  Everything is going to be fine.  I'm going to take a bootcamp with Speer in New York in August.  I am very excited.  It's going to be an avalanche of knowledge and skills.

Possessing Your Own World

In the rules of attraction, there is a huge part that consists of a man having his OWN reality.  He owns it and is comfortable with it.  That's what a woman wants...to find a man who has his own reality and owns that reality.  He is completely comfortable with his reality and will not change it because he knows that if nothing else happens he will always be able to retreat back to his own reality.  Having your own reality means being centered in yourself.  That's attractive.  People who are centered within themselves attract people to them.  Having your own reality means having other people comfortable coming into it.  What I have realized is that meditation helps me center myself.  Meditate and become completely comfortable with yourself.  Hope this helps.  Signing off.  Cheers.

ATTRACTION OVERVIEW...

If you want the WOMAN of your dreams then be the MAN of her dreams...gentlemen, it's not a one way street.  You see that woman you would do anything to be with...she is waiting for the man of her dreams to come and sweep her off her feet.  BE the man of her dreams.  This is a self-improvement program to become the MAN that she always dreamt of.  Gentlemen, get in shape.  Accessorize your looks.  Groom yourself.  Smell good when you go out.  But most importantly, have a life.  Have something going for you.  Hell, have a lot going for you.  Get a good job.  Be a good worker.  Make yourself important.  Be indespinsable to your company.  Amp up your survival value and make her want you.  Become a man who can provide.

Smell of Victory

It's getting closer and closer.  That moment when I graduate and take the next step in my life.  I have reconsidered my goals since the last past and I am thinking about moving up to Cincinatti, Ohio for a job with Advantage Corp.  I have family up there and there is also a PUA lair that I can join.  It seems like a good place to move.  My aunt up there is a real estate agent and she can find me a good place to live while I'm there.  I'm so excited.  I can't wait.  After the darkest 4 years of my life in this city I will finally graduate from college and move to a bigger city full of new possibilities.  Cheers to the next step.  Signing off.

BEING A SOCIAL ROBOT

When you go out...have something better to do than pick up women.  Don't be a social robot because that will destroy the great person you are.  Don't give up on school, work, relationships, or whatever it is you do because these things are things that make you attractive to the opposite sex.  I am guilty of being a social robot but I'm working on it.  Signing off.  Cheers.

THE "100 APPROACHES IN A DAY" EXERCISE

I recently read about an AFC named Adonis who made it a goal for himself to make 100 approaches in one day...and he did it!  He also made it a goal to do 1,000 approaches in a month...and he did that!!  He no longer had approach anxiety and he was much better at approaching and socializing.  He said it was worth it.  I am going to do this when I have more time.  Signing off.  Cheers.

Rsd pua Tyler Durden On How Not Give A Damn Part 2 of 2

COMPLETELY UNSTIFLED IS THE WAY TO GO

I went out last night with a new technique I wanted to put to the test.  And it worked!  It's a state of mind that is a bit difficult to get into sometimes.   I will post a video of it being demonstrated by PUA Tyler Durden in my next post.  It's a lot of fun for both her and you and she will most likely enjoy your fun and vibrant energy as well.  Signing off.  Cheers.

AFTER GRADUATION

A giant step is coming up in my life.  I have to be very careful with the decisions I make at that breaking point.  If I make the wrong decision, I can get stuck doing something that I am going to regret.  I don't want to work a 9 to 5 job like most people, though I might have to do it in order to get to where I want to go in life.  My goal is to one day travel the world teaching seminars on social dynamics, which is something that fascinates me.  I want to be a dating coach and I want to be the best at it that I can be.  I want to solve the biggest mystery for men in existence, and that is women.  A lot is going to change in the next 6 months and I hope I make the right decisions.  For the sake of me and my dreams.  This is my one life.  Signing off.  Cheers.

TONIGHT WAS ANOTHER LEARNING EXPERIENCE, BUT THE GOOD KIND.

Tonight I went downtown again, met up with some friends at Scully's, and left with a completely different crowd.  Making friends is becoming easier and easier.  The best part is, I didn't drink a drop.  I have to say, I wouldn't mind doing that again but with more magic tricks.  Signing off.  Cheers.

TONIGHT WAS A FAILURE: AT LEAST FOR THE MOST PART

Tonight I was reminded of something very important.  No matter what stands in my way of becoming good at this art: discouragements, teases, failures; i must keep pushing on in pursuit of my goal.  Tonight I went to Barcades (a bar downtown that was HOPPIN!) and I saw a lot of people there that I knew.  At the bar, I made the stupid mistake of reaching for a cherry when I wasn't supposed to so the bartender cut me off from any more alcohol.  So I started walking around looking for Sam and Jordan but I couldn't find them.  While I was walking around I saw a friend of mine with a hott chick I wanted to talk to and, along with the embarassment of being cut off from alcohol, I started to become jealous and think that I am going to become good at this art no matter what it took.  Not just good, but incredible!  I am going to do it!  No matter what it takes I am!  Tonight was a learning experience.  Big deal.  Brush it off soldier.  Signing off.  Cheers.

IF THERE'S NO KINO, DON'T GO FOR IT!

Kino is short for "kinesthetic", which means touching.  In romantic situations, there is always a kinesthetic escalation that takes place before anything physical happens.  I've learned that, on first dates, if there's no kino, don't go for the kiss.  Especially with older women.  If you don't feel like the chemistry is there yet, or it's just not ripe enough, then don't go for the kiss.  Just give her a hug, say you had a great time, and say bye.  Signing off. Cheers.

POINTPEOPLE

In my opinion, pointpeople are the easiest and most effortless way to start a conversation with a stranger you are interested in.  Going straight up to the person you are interested in poses many problems, mainly awkwardness.  So, let's set the scenario...

You are in a public gathering and you see the person you are interested in.  A few feet away is a person who you can easily start up a casual conversation with.  This person is your pointperson.  So you walk up and start up a casual convo with the pointperson and ya'll start talking about iPods, for example. 

YOU: "Hey I noticed you had an iPOD.  How do you like it?
POINTPERSON: "I like it a lot.  It's neat"
YOU: "I hear that.  (Getting excited-->) Oh man, have you heard about the new iPod coming out soon?"
POINTPERSON: "No."
YOU: "Oh wow.  You've got to check it out!  It's got digital audio recording, live television, and a video camera all in one!  Oh man."

Now, this is the important point in the conversation where you bring the person you are interested in into the conversation.  If the person or group of interest was close enough in proximity to you and your pointperson, then they should have heard or seen your enthusiasm for what you were talking about to your pointperson.  So, quickly turn around to the person or group you are interested in and quickly ask them...

"Oh man. Have you guys heard about the new iPod?  It's amazing.  It has digital audio recording, live television, and a video camera all in one!  It's amazing."  Depending on their response, you can either stay turned towards them and keep talking or just turn back around to your pointperson.  Either way, chances of rejection are greatly reduced.

You turning around and asking the person you are interested in must appear spontaneous and like they are the first people you saw to ask and that's why you asked them.  Nine times out of ten, if your delivery is calibrated correctly, you will hit a hook point where they become somewhat interested and invested in what you have to say.  Boom.  You can take the convo anywhere after this.  The good thing about spontanaeity in this situation is that it shows that you don't have an agenda by talking to them.  Therefore, they won't have their guard up or be wondering what your intentions are.  You are just spontaneously talking to them as one social being to another because that is what social beings do.  They mingle with each other.

I've found that pointpeople are the easiest and least awkward way to open a set you are interested in.  If you don't hit the hook point then don't worry about it.  Just turn back around to your pointperson.  Your pointperson is your friend.  Respect.  Signing off.  Cheers.

PROXIMITY AND AVAILABILITY: MAKING IT EASIER TO BE APPROACHED

Imagine that you are an employee for a successful corporation and your boss decides to send you on an all-inclusive vacation to anywhere you want to go.  The first thing you do is go to a travel agent and get some brochures on potential vacation spots.  The first brochure has pictures of blue skies, white sandy beaches, and friendly people walking around in bathing suits.  The second brochure has pictures of grey skies, busy city streets, and people walking around miserably in thick winter coats and toboggans.  Which destination do you think you will choose.  That's right.  The warm, sunny beach because it looks inviting, relaxing, and fun.  The same applies to people.  Who do you think people will be more willing to visit, the cold and cloudy person or the warm and sunny person?  Going about your day like you are in a lousy mood is definitely not the way to interact with people and will severely decrease your chances of being approached by a potential date.  Similarly, faking a happy mood only goes so far.  Putting on the outside something that is radically different from what is on the inside will eventually become overwhelmingly exhausting.  Now, going about your day like you're having the time of your life will draw other like-minded people to you like a miracle.  In your day to day life, be that warm, inviting, and fun beach that everyone wants to visit.  Don't take life so seriously.  Nothing should be that big of a deal.  Don't worry.  Be happy.  I've discovered, through countless trial and error, that you can increase your general happiness by 150% if you eliminate worry from your mind.  My biggest worry for the past 3 years has been graduating college.  What's the worst that could happen though?  I don't graduate?  What's the huge deal?  My success in life does not depend on my achievements in this material country we live in.  It does not depend on the size of my bank account.  My success in life depends on me being alive!  That's it.  I don't have to do a damn thing to be "successful".  I don't HAVE to do anything although there are things I WANT to do.  I want to graduate college.  I've made it this far so I WANT to finish what I started.  I also WANT to give this life my best shot and be the best I can be.  I WANT to help people with their dating and relationship troubles.  Being upbeat and positive is a huge part of what drives me to seek what I am seeking.  People want to have that kind of positivity in their lives.  People who bring that to the table are much more attractive.  So, breathe positivity and live it like there's no tomorrow.  You may very well be amazed by the results.  Signing off.  Cheers.

MORE BAR MAGIC

I must come up with more bar illusions.  The levitation tricks I did only went so far.  I must come up with more tricks.  I went up on stage and did my levitation tricks for the whole bar!!  It was awesome but I only had one trick to do.  I must come up with more but...tonight was amazing.  I went to Emerald Lounge to meet up with Paulie and his girl for Paulie's birthday party.  I didn't know any of them at the beginning of the night.  But by the end of the night we were like old friends.  It's amazing how quickly you can build subtle commonalities with people and become a member of their social group.  My best advice to anyone is to just be a social person.  Be talkative, friendly, and out to have a good time/make everyone else's night more enjoyable.   I locked in with this girl named Vanessa and used a lock-in prop,  my hat.  Vanessa was totally cool.  I kiss-closed her before I went to Broadways.  I stayed at Broadways for about 20 minutes and then I left and went home.  Good night.  A lot of fun!  Signing off.  Cheers.

GIVE VALUE. DON'T EXTRACT VALUE

Conversations are amazing phenomenon.  In every conversation, there is value being given and value being taken.  And on some level, we are all conscious of this.  Be the one who gives value to a conversation.  When you talk to someone new, be the one who makes the conversation worth having.  Give value to it.  Be enthusiastic about what you say because enthusiasm is contagious.  That, in itself, is a form of value-giving.  You are adding excitement to the conversation.  Gotta funny joke?  TELL IT.  Gotta funny or interesting story?  TELL IT.  Gotta sincere and genuine compliment to give?  GIVE IT.  The other person probably made this change to themselves to generate compliments from you and everyone else.  They want your approval, so, give it to them.  Signing off.  Cheers. 

My Challenge For The New Year

Along with all the other tasks I'm taking on this new year, I'm also challenging myself to lose some weight and get back in the gym this semester.  I've got a small spare tire around my waist that I want to get rid of and I might as well build some muscle while I'm at it.  So when the gym opens back up I'm gonna hit the shit full force.  I have physical fitness, magic tricks, book reading, and thesis to work on when the semester begins.  Bring it on.  Signing off.  Cheers.